DrJays.com Debate: What’s the Deal with Chivalry?
I have had many conversations with my girlfriends where the topic is, “what happened to the ‘gentleman’?”.
What happened to the idea of a man opening doors for a woman, paying for dinner, putting her in a cab at the end of the night without trying to make a move and calling to make sure that she got home safe?
Many men may be reading this thinking, “hey, I still do those things!”, but there are obviously some men who don’t feel they need to.
Last year, when Ne-Yo released his album The Year of the Gentleman, he told TheUrbanDaily.com his definition of a gentleman:
“A gentleman is patient. A gentleman is diverse. A gentleman is classy. He’s got unadulterated and unarguable swag. A gentleman knows what it is to dress the part. A gentleman knows never to let them see you sweat. A gentleman knows he not perfect but he’s damn close…
“Making an assessment of cats in the game and looking at men in general, there are certain elements of being a gentleman that we all need to work on. We need to bring chivalry back”.
Perhaps after hearing women push equal rights between the two sexes, some men are thinking “why do I still need to give up my seat on the train for them?”, or “she makes more money than me, why do I still have to pay for her movie ticket?”.
Should it still be on men to do the traditional chivalrous things, or should women be stepping up to the plate in certain cases?
Where do you stand on this? We want to hear from both men and women!