Is Pop Culture Redefining Girls And Boys?
Teyana Taylor
Have you ever pondered about what makes a woman a woman or what makes a man a man? Do we define ourselves and others by choice of wardrobe, mannerisms and things like make-up, aggressive behavior and skinny jeans?
Lately, in mainstream media and in pop-culture, we’ve seen more and more men wearing things that you would traditionally see a woman wear. We’ve heard, read and watched both women and men do things, say things and embrace things that weren’t traditionally acceptable.
Are these recent reflections in alignment with sexuality or can someone change their appearance and not be determined as a homosexual, lesbian or bi-sexual?
If one is living an alternative lifestyle, is the Sly Fox and his influential tools to promote non-traditional lifestyles a way to inform the world on how to accept different types of sexual approaches, or is it a way to force it?
Who do these types of images and messages reflect and influence the most? Are these memos projected to a particular demographic?
Are clothes just clothes, music just music or do these various forms of media heavily influence what’s “hot or not” or acceptable behavior? Is the idea of unisex jeans and the elimination of gender roles automatically aligned with sexuality?
Remember that our culture is shaped by us. You have the right to evaluate, analyze and change the game. Don’t be afraid to think.
With that, let me know something: has pop-culture simply gone too far? Or am I coming too soon? Think about it, because I am.
There’s way too much judging in America. Clothing is clothing. Music is music. Insecurities are insecurities…….
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
I say it is. Because now you have kids err people relying on the way they dress and say to define them and not so much their actions. Most this gen is friggin lost lol. Putting up causes for everything that don’t need a cause. People are trying to go for shock value to get the attention instead of going off of talent. Their standing up to imaginary shit.
For instance skinny jeans and tight ass clothes. You can say groups like run dmc, and nwa wore them. But they didn’t define themselves by what that. They consistantly defined themselves by their skill and messages they sent out to their community. Not a dance or clothes craze. Not fishing for haters. But the masses of people keep falling for it and it keeps getting worse and worse. Might as well start rockin dresses and heels stop beating around the bush.
Well, I’ll say something about the pics I just saw here. the lady teyana taylor, her pic next to omarion, she dressed like a high schooler guy. As for Omarion, he’s rockin’ a chunky RBK Pump kicks and his pants are tight as hell. the other pics (especially with Lady Gaga and the pics of male models below her are kinda like….disturbing to me, in my opinion.
I still wear my semi-baggy pants and shorts and big-sized shirts until I can’t wear them no more. there’s a big NO chance in hell i’ll be rockin’ skinny pants and tight-fit shirts. I don’t give a damn who hates my style.
My opinion, I don’t think its that deep. You say Run DMC (Rick) wore tight jeans but they had tallent, but they weren’t the only ones rockin the tight jeans, so was the majority of people in the 80s. The 80s just stepped out of an era of wearin tight colorful a$$ bell bottoms. Point is it was the fashion back then and no one’s sexuality was questioned on the basis of their attire.
When hip hop artists evolved and started saggin, wearin baggy jeans and oversized clothes everybody startin followin suit.
Fast forward to 2009. So the tight pants and entire 80′s look is comin back in style. So what. If you don’t like it don’t wear it. Not everyone can pull off the look anyway. I don’t think teenagers today, especailly myself being the oldest and having teenage siblings are trying to do anything that hasn’t been done forever. When we were teengers we tried to emulate celebrities a lot too. In middle school i was rockin the baggy jeans and tight tops cause I like TLC. If anything they are more bold then we were because they dress how they want despite the criticism from old heads sayin they look gay. They should be able to dress however they want without being persecuted by homophobes. And for the record there are just as many gay black men that wear baggy jeans and say they aren’t gay just like to have sex with men. lol
For me, the way AHLOT drives the subject is coming from an objetive point of view. She’s not judging people for what they do, just asking if what you and I do comes from our own idea or we are just molded by everything we see on the media.
As an example, in my opinion, I can say this: we all know that everybody can decide for his or her own life what he or she wants. If we are talking about sexuality, ok, i someone wants to be gay, i can’t help it, thats his right to decide. Tha human rights should be promoted, But the problem I see, is that the media is promoving homosexuality, and this should not be promoted. And I repeat i’m not judging anybody, just expressing myself
First, I can understand what people are talking about when they ask “Is pop culture redefining boys and girls?”, but I pose this question, Who says there are things that men do and women do, or things that men wear and women wear? Why do you have to bind yourself in that way? If I want to wear baggy jeans that doesn’t mean it’s me doing something that men do, it means I’m bloated and I don’t want the world to know! Be you and let the labels go, simple.
I think the real issue people have, however, is that men are doing things that have been defined as “girly”. The poster before me mentioned that groups like TLC were wearing boys clothes in the nineties, and it’s true, when women present themselves in a more masculine fashion there is no issue, but when men do things that seem “feminine” there is an uproar. It points to a deep seated hatred of the feminine, which I think extends to other parts of our community as well, specifically the way men treat women. That is what the issue is. When men don’t dislike femininity, because if you like something you like it no matter who does it, then men won’t get weird when their contemporaries wear skinny jeans, or a tight tee.
I can’t say too much for the youth nowadays, But I can tell you me and alot of the crew laugh our ass off when we see some young boy wearing tight ass pants, and then these muthafucka’s have the audacity to sag em. Shits hilarious b.
Anyway, I don’t like when a female tries to go with a male look(shaved head etc. etc.). That shit ain’t attractive. People associate certain things with male/female… when you break those associations most of the time you stand out, yeah, but you also look like a jackass once the trend stops.
Yeah, be yourself but don’t follow a trend. Look how retarded people looked back in the eighties and early nineties when they followed certain trends.
@veronica… I see what your saying but kids of this gen say one thing and do another. They’ll say I should be allowed to wear this, express that but 5 mins before they were talking smack about some wearing baggy clothes or they gave them a look or something to cause a reaction. On my myspace page the same girl that says “niggas love me, dis and dat” 5 min later “niggahs need to back up off of me etc” 5 min later “I’m loney holla at me”… rinse and repeat. Same thing goes for people who talk ish on other people then their like man everybody hating on me? When you act like an ass, the shits going to fly.
@moneypenny… As a female I know your probably not going to get this but it’s not a hatred towards females. Men need to be men. We have a role to fulfill. How the hell am I supposed to protect/hold you if I’m crying or worried about chipping a nail? How the hell am I supposed to hold it down as well as have your back genuinely.
Right now I know your like “I’m a strong woman etc” even a strong woman needs support. Even a strong man needs support. One day it’s going to hit you that your with a pansy and really don’t want to deal with it. What you’ll want is a real man not a female trapped in a mans body. Right now this generation of dudes are a bunch of all talk no bite but act like a prissy show dog. It’s not even a civil or maturity thing.
Femininity belongs with females. If your gay fine. If not then decide which path your really going down. Because the shit ain’t cute anymore.
Rick Lexington,
As a woman with her own mind, as a man who is not a psychic…you do not know what i’m thinking, and the whole “I’m a strong woman” thing isn’t something I subscribe to. That line of thinking is part of the undoing of black women…I don’t need to be extra strong, being a woman in and of itself requires strength, that’s quite enough to get by!
Having said all that, men who cry aren’t “pansies”, men who need holding aren’t less of a man. Being penetrated by a penis (which is the only thing that makes gay men different from other men) doesn’t make it so that you can be feminine, that’d be so absurd. There aren’t certain things that only men can do, period.
Also, if what you mean by real man is someone who isn’t afraid of taking responsibility for me and my feelings (which, I feel, is why men are afraid of commitment, afraid of wives who depend on them, so on andd so forth.) then yes, I do want one of them, but because I refuse to date anyone but black men I understand that it will either be a long time before I meet him, or he may not exist. Now, I don’t date young men, so (depending on your age) those may be your contemporaries…would you say that your generation of men “are a bunch of all talk no bite but act like a prissy show dogs”? Because I would, and that’s not shade because i’m generalizing and I know not all men are defined by the poor quality of the men i’ve dated.
And the ire men feel in regards to women who shirk gender roles isn’t positive either because we don’t have to wear skirts or be feminine, it’s anger with women daring to step out of the boxes we’ve been stuffed in. If people had full freedom of expression the world would be a better place, gay, straight, trans, feminine, masculine, or otherwise.
M
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Rick Lexington,
As a woman with her own mind, and as a man who is not a psychic…you do not know what i’m thinking, and the whole “I’m a strong woman” thing isn’t something I subscribe to. That line of thinking is part of the undoing of black women…I don’t need to be extra strong, being a woman in and of itself requires strength, that’s quite enough to get by!
Having said all that, men who cry aren’t “pansies”, men who need holding aren’t less of a man, men who don’t cry are men who beat their women…that men feel the need to hold in their feelings is the reason black women are 35% more likely to be beaten in a relationship than any other women. Being penetrated by a penis (which is the only thing that makes gay men different from other men) doesn’t make it so that you can be feminine, that’d be so absurd. There aren’t certain things that only men can do, period.
Also, if what you mean by real man is someone who isn’t afraid of taking responsibility for me and my feelings (which, I feel, is why men are afraid of commitment, afraid of wives who depend on them, so on and so forth.) then yes, I do want one of them, but because I refuse to date anyone but black men I understand that it will either be a long time before I meet him, or he may not exist. Now, I don’t date young men, so (depending on your age) those may be your contemporaries…would you say that your generation of men “are a bunch of all talk no bite but act like a prissy show dogs”? Because I would, and that’s not shade because I know i’m generalizing and I know not all men are defined by the poor quality of some of the men i’ve dated.
**And the ire men feel in regards to women who shirk gender roles isn’t positive either because we don’t have to wear skirts or be feminine, it’s anger with women daring to step out of the boxes we’ve been stuffed in. If people had full freedom of expression the world would be a better place, gay, straight, trans, feminine, masculine, or otherwise.**
M
With the exception of a loved one dying, or in a tear gas tank a man should never cry. The holding thing… dear lord lol, anyways lol. A man who doesn’t cry does not beat their women. That’s just absurd.
I don’t cry it doesn’t mean that I take a hand against a woman who doesn’t fix my meal right. The only time I will is in self defense. But other than that never. There’s other ways to let out your feelings. As for your percentage rating I would look into the cause of that effect. Because some sistas and other nationalities will pull something to set a dude off.
Trust me there’s a difference between a majority of gays than regular men. If your around them a lot you’ll realize it.
Also on the race thing. If your feeling someone and everything matches up but a particular race or age. Then that’s just stupid, plus your continually sabotaging yourself. And that erks me about women how you come up with pointless rules etc. Then your like “I’ll keep looking, hes out there it’ll just take time” and later on it’s “damn I should’ve got with that dude”.
Oh I didn’t say “my generation”, I said “this generation” I don’t put myself with any generation because I’m a rare breed lol.
all this bitch slapping comments back and forth is giving me gas (got Beano?).
no they didn’t censor me. that’s a fart you just smelled, mister
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