I Am Chris Brown: An Evaluation Of Humanity
Chris Brown is by far one of the most talked about young men in the world right now. After last week’s Larry King Live interview alongside his mother Joyce Hawkins and his lawyer Mark Geragos, I have a couple of things to say.
While watching the show, I read the messages that scrolled along the bottom of the screen which reflected the thoughts of fans, readers and watchers. Twitterites from around the world tweeted heartless and unforgivable messages of hatred and ugliness. I assume most people were in shock at Brown’s demeanor and sense of forgetfulness.
I for one, am shocked at the responses from the people.
As a person who’s been affected by domestic violence (through the lost of my sister) and a firm believer in rehabilitation and counseling, I was stunned at the absence of several potential thoughtful responses to the interview.
For an easier reading experience, I’ve decided to create a list of things that I thought should have been running through the minds of humanity while watching the interview.
I hope Chris is reading…
#1. We need to become selfless. In the beginning of the interview, Brown and Hawkins spoke about how they’ve been tragically affected from this dramatic situation. The focus was, “Chris this and Chris that.” There is a someone named Rihanna who should have probably been mentioned from the moment they stepped foot in the studio (she was the one who was physically harmed and threatened). Sometimes we focus too much on SELF. It’s not always about us. We must humble ourselves and think about how our actions effect the lives of others.
#2. There is more than one victim. Beyond the obvious victim in this case, Brown is also a victim. From years of hurt and pain, deep rooted anger and his inability to control himself, he has an obvious issue. Brown needs serious help. His problem is emotional, psychological and most likely spiritual. He too, needs guidance, support and counseling.
#3. Forget the endorsements. The whole world (including Brown) was talking about how much he’s lost in regards to his career and his endorsements. What we should be focused on is his well-being and his life! After the “flashing lights,” the advertisements and concerts, he has to face Chris Brown. At the end of each day, we have to understand that losing a car, some clothes and a couple zeros compare nothing to losing our minds. The focus should be: fixing his warped perspective of love, a train of thought that has ran off its tracks, and the restoration of a man who has the potential to be an amazing human being. With or without the platinum plaques, he needs help.
#4. Mistakes and Regrets. In the interview Brown expressed that he felt bad about the situation that occurred and something to the affect that he’d felt like he’d made a mistake. A mistake is something you do without being aware of the consequences of what you’re doing before you do it. A regret is knowing the consequences and still moving forward with the action. I think this is a regret. Whether he blacked out during the beating or not, prior to the first swing (or blow) he knew what would happen if he hit her. This was no mistake… but seems as something he would take back if he could.
#5. Identifying the problem. In the interview Brown said something along the lines of, if he “has an issue” than he’s willing to get some help. Sadly, he does have a problem and the sooner he understands that, the better off he will be. It’s similar to the old cliché about finding solutions after identifying an existing problem. What happened is not ok and he cannot fix this issue alone. He has to step out of denial in order to move forward.
#6. Forgiveness. We must not be so judgmental in our evaluation. He still has the potential to overcome his faults and the opportunity to turn his entire life around. As human beings, we have a social responsibility to empower, uplift and motivate each other to be better. The situation is sad and unfortunate for both parties. We have to learn, build and grow to become better people. I think people deserve the opportunity to heal.
#7. Know Love. Fans, supporters, regular viewers, readers and haters must know love. It is so essential in our journeys. Chris Brown deserves hope, kindness and opportunity, as well as Rihanna and the rest of humanity. Let’s love again.
Enjoy life. Embrace every minute. We can all learn from this situation. I’m sure we all have evils that we need to face and overcome.