DrJays.com Debate: Do Haters Even Exist?
Before you take another step you need to play this song. It’s “Do You Have The Stamina” by B.o.B. (One of XXL‘s Hip-Hop Class of 09 Freshmen) and has Kanye West on the chorus.
“That’s why I don’t read all the comments on the blogs. Everybody’s a fan if you boo me or applaud. Give me your energy. Even if you’re my enemy.”
I like what B.o.B. said in that quote because it’s something I’ve always thought. I don’t believe in haters. If you dedicate any of your time and energy to me then you’re a fan. Easy. Too often people get discouraged when someone is constantly going against them or calling them out.
If they are taking the time to critique whatever you’re doing then just use it wisely. It might be constructive. It’s a ridiculously large slice of humble pie when someone you don’t really like or respect starts “hating” on you and you realize what they said is actually true. Put it to use. Don’t brush off the advice because it came from an unwarranted source.
Now, for the not-so-useful advice. Hear it and let it go. Simple. Anytime an argument or debate arises I think about what I’m arguing. I ask myself if my opinion could ever be changed on this subject matter. My answer is usually no. Then I realize if that’s the reason I’m debating this, that’s probably the same reason my opponent is too.
Hear the person out but don’t let it get you down. You’re not always going to get positive feedback. Honestly you don’t want all positive feedback. The positive feedback you get feels so good because you know people are picky. You know your product may not be well received by everyone.
My point is simply take the good with the bad. Take them both and there you have – The Facts of Life. Haters don’t exist. Just people who give criticism – some constructive, some not.