Damn Chad Ochocinco, What’s Wrong With The Sistas?
When Chad Ochocinco‘s VH1 reality dating show “The Ultimate Catch” debuted on Sunday evening, some were up in arms as Ochocinco began chopping down the field of 85 women to 16. It was immediately noticeable that the women being cut were of the darker complexion. By the end of the first episode, Ochocinco’s “team” featured more white and Latina women than African-Americans. The question of whether or not the star football player was “colorstruck” was raised on a number of message boards.
Colorstruck: To have an aversion to someone’s skin color; usually used in the African-American community, especially in the Southern U.S.
This question has followed the Miami-born wideout for a little while now. Whether or not it’s actually true is up for debate. But judging by the response after “The Ultimate Catch” aired on VH1 Sunday evening, many feel Ochocinco is just like many other athletes who opt for a lighter shade of companion once they “make it.” It’s a troubling topic with no correct answer. Some say it is a matter of preference, while others feel companions are selected based on their color so they have an easier time “fitting in.” Either way, “The Ultimate Catch” brought the topic back up on a number of message boards and blog posts across the Internet.
A few gossip websites reported Ochocinco made sure he selected blonds, brunettes and Latinas while sending home many of the sistas that tried out for the show. Rumor had it the producers encouraged Ochocinco to have a more balanced variety of women of all ethnicities, but Ochocinco insisted he go with what he selected—which initially included no women of African-American descent—and later relented. But who really knows the “reality” of the situation, right? Reality TV is about as real as Lil Kim‘s physical features. But I digress.
While preference should absolutely be that particular individual’s decision, it proved to be troubling to many viewers who feel Ochocinco was shunning black women even though he has four black children and their mother is also black.
“What kind of example are you setting for your children,” chimed in one commenter.
And that’s where it certainly does get interesting. Ochocinco is of darker complexion and his family is also darker complected. Could something like this have an adverse affect on his children moving forward? Will they begin to look into the mirror and wonder “What’s wrong with me?” if their father opts for a lighter shade of woman rather than show an affinity for women who are of darker complexion?
How do you feel about the cast of the show? Is it indicative of the “colorstruck” issue that has plagued the African-American community for years? Or are people simply overreacting?
This is another sad show. The whole concept is to make african-american women look bad. I have no problem with interracial dating,just stop always trying to degrade african-american women.I often look at african-american men and it is obvious that their mothers are all the way african-american. Do they not see beauty in their own mothers or they feel I am somebody, because i can date out of my race. We have to let go of this master slave mentally and we can grow and be productive like other races that connect to one another. We have to stop destroying our race and find the beauty that God design in all races not just whites and latinos
You have GOT to be kidding me. Ocho can bang whoever the fuck he wants! I’m white and I like Puerto Rican chicks. If I was famous, would society complain that i sent home all the pasty skinned white girls with flat asses?? Besides, the women who participate in these shows are WHORES!! It is completely mind boggling that we are even examining something so obviously ridiculous. The people who get caught up over this shit are complete losers… they are probably the LEAST productive individuals this society has to offer. Get a fuckin life and stop watching nonsense that will only make you dumber.
Byatch definitely has a point and I have to say I agree with everything he says. It’s alright if Ocho wants to date white/latina girls but to add then don’t be half assed about it. Don’t have any black girls at all just for appearances sake. Do you Ocho for real and don’t insult anybody with reverse tokenism.
I love Spanish women and can’t nobody change that. Who the hell cares what he likes.
I think sistas need to re evaluate themselves. Granted there are people that go by race. I’m mixed and I get scrutinized all the time by sistas for going out with other races. Yet if I tried to holla at them I’d get snubbed. I go out with all races.
But I notice that most sistas now have more of a tendency to try and make you feel that you owe them something, in order to get more. If you give them something there’s no thanks it’s like “that’s all?”, “this cheap…”, “you should give me that” etc. They act sadity.
Where as most white and latinas, appreciate it more, it’s like “OMG he got me roses”. They actually do stuff for you in return. etc.
So which race are you going to get with? The one that demands the most. Or the ones that demand the least?
Straight up, I agree with byatch.
I am in an interracial relationship myself, and have met many men that are of my own nationality (All different shades of the color wheel) that I was just not feeling. Same thing here, maybe the chicks he outted weren’t what he was looking for, doesn’t mean there are racial implications in all of this. The racial implications are brought on by people who have those ingrained biases within them to begin with. The message those people are giving is basically, black men need to be with black women…and so on and so on…now that’s freaking ridiculous.
These shows are all built around drama, we are talking about it now so step 1 worked, I like that their are not many AA women, less we look like clowns, we stil tryin to recover from Flavor of Love. Let the Jersey Shore crowd look like fools. Plus Chad is AA so the AA crowd will tune in for him, making the contestants more diverse, makes the show relate to more crowds, and hell one of them might blow up and then a spin off is born, its all about money and drama makes money, so does sex, these shows take advantage of both, sex and drama. Grow Up!
This show is just a minority version of Brett Michaels now defunct show “Rock of Love”. Sad and Pathetic ho bags TRYING to win ochocincos love. Ain’t he was banging Cheryl Burke on Dancing with the stars? what is up with that?
“Because the dudes say they want white “women” in one breath (okay.. if it is love, or the possibility-MORE POWER TO YOU), but in the NEXT BREATH the black “men” will:
1. “call” black women IN GENERAL b^tches,
2. Place videos of black women getting punched by black men on HIP HOP sites in the name of COMEDY while shouting “PUNCH THAT B&TCH, PUNCH THAT B&TCH, YEYAH!!!!”,
3. hold a door open for you UNTIL they see you are a black,
4. walk around like f@ggots bitching about how HARD black men have it compared to black women,
5. GLADLY join in on sh&t talking sessions with white people about a black women,
6. subscribe to treating black women like prostitutes, write books/develop videos on it, and then give lectures at YALE to the amusement of white people,
7. OPENLY talk about a group of chicks and how the dark ones are ugly and “OOOOO” how pretty the “lite-skinned” one has, “Yeah, she GOT that GOOD HAIR”,
8. ONLY WRITE SONGS THAT OBJECTIFY BLACK WOMEN, but DEIFY WHITE GIRLS IN HIP-POP on the pop stations.
9. classify black women as “Ghetto (the N-Word for black women – rarely, if ever, used ON black dudes)” even if those women have 3 f&ckin’ degrees.
IF IT WERE NOT SOOOOO CLEAR THAT THE BLACK DUDES HAD REAL IDENTITY ISSUES AND WERE NOT VERBALLY AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE TO BLACK WOMEN WHO ARE STRANGERS (so WHAT! You knew some mean Black chicks growing up! Hello, white chicks are NOTORIOUSLY MEAN EVEN INTO ADULTHOOD) AS IF TO DISTANCE THEMSELVES FROM THE COMMUNITY THEN THE WHOLE WHITE CHICK THING WOULDN’T MATTER.
I’m like, more power to you… unless she’s trash or you have money, she’s not trying to have you wife her… Yeah, there are exceptions, but seriously, you “Becky Pets” are just blowup dolls. These white chicks will drop you all for a good skinny white boy in a second (which I find hilarious). Make sure that wallet is FAT!!!!!!! “
Personally he is ugly as hell anyways and i know over 75% of all of them women are just going on there to get their 15 minutes of fame, so who cares. None not none of these stupid reality shows have ever had a real relationship come out of it so whatever. FYI… Do not think black women are sadity, we do appreciate things just because some of you happen to mess with certain types do not judge us all on a few who seemed and acted otherwise. Oh yeah lighter is not better or they wouldn’t be spending hundreds to get tanned(darker) all year long, no wonder Obama put the 10% tax on indoor tanning lol!
Here’s my take on it: I’ve dated girls of all spectrums. The worst girl I was ever with was caramel skinned, like me. She thought she was the shit (she was at the time), and she treated me like shit because of it. The second best relationship I ever had was with a dark chocolate-skinned girl. She wanted to be a singer when she grew up, and we clicked really well. She was nice, but she had shitty friends who ended up being a bad influence on her and convincing her to cheat on me. It was at that point that I had to let her go. The girl I’m with now is the best I’ve had, and she and I are engaged. She’s white, and her personality and opinion of me is the best that I’ve ever experienced. She doesn’t treat me like I owe her things like the first girl did, and she doesn’t let her friends talk her into bullshit like the second girl did. She’s her own person, and that’s what I love.
So, I think it doesn’t at all depend on color, but something else that people are far less eager to try and quantify: personality. No guy wants anyone that treats them like shit, just like no woman wants that. At the same time, alot of women seem to be of the impression that guys want someone they can boss around and control, but damnit, I’m grown. I have a hard enough life, I don’t need to live yours, too. As far as I’m concerned, there has to be a fair balance of give and take of wants and needs between a couple, and if you click with white, black, asian, mexican, indian, or whatever, be with who makes you happy and forget all the haters.
Tl;dr: Haters gon’ hate, deal with it and ignore it.
Justsayin:
Majority of what you said is a crock of played out ish. Some of what you said don’t make sense. I was going to write a counter but that’d take a long time. And your type of mindset is the thing brothas are tired of dealing with.
But to answer your first one. Black women refer to themselves and others as bitches way more than brothas will call them it. Also as divas etc. And they act like it. You reap what you sew.
Matt:
I feel your pain. My last gf was a combo of your one and two. She was bangin, personality etc. But she kept trying to manipulate, gave me the guilt act and didn’t appreciate shit I did for her. Everything was about her and her gold diggin ass mom, sister and friends stay giving her advice. I can actually tell you when it’s her talking and when it’s something her sister said. Funny part is I told her we’ll be together when she actually gives a damn about me. Which I know won’t happen, because she’s all about her lifestyle, which she can’t afford and it’s going to mess her up baaaad. I told her that. She’s tried damn near everything else but that.
But yeah now I’m talking to a latina girl. It is what it is. But at least it wasn’t that fubar’d ish I was in before.
@Rick: There’s a movie that’s been going through on IFC called “Diary of a Tired Black Man.” I think everyone needs to watch this movie, it really deconstructs the different stereotypes women face, and the hardships that men, particularly black men, endure in relationships.
I have seen a few of Chad’s ex-girlfriends, and it makes me very sad that none of them were black, not even mixed..I also watched the HBO docu-series on the Bengals training camp and he had his girlfrind of that time on there. He met her on a plane in Vegas. She was a bartendar or waitress(the usual) and she was very beautiful…but she was NOT black. It is true he prefers women of other races, other than his own, but I also feel like that’s that man’s business. In the end, he will find out that the women he choose only give him the opportunity because they want to be in the public eye and also want to take what he worked his whole life for. In his profession it is hard to look at a woman and see whether she is “real” or not, so he’s probably very confused and has internal struggles daily on whom to trust and who he can give his heart to. That does not excuse the fact that he is immediately dissmisive of a woman based on her skin complexion. Especially since he is so chocolate himself. Many Black men with dark complexions have this issue. A few of my uncles were the same way…they wouldn’t touch a brown to dark skinned black woman with a 10 foot pole. They said that they were afraid if they had kids, the kids would be ugly and too dark. This is that slavery, house negro versus field negro mentality. I hope in time he can grow as a man and see that Black women deserve to be given a fair fighting chance to be with a successful hard working black man, but until then, he will suffer in a self-hating misery of a shallow existence.
To Rick Lexington:
You are yourself stereotyping ALL black women in your comments, I looked at both of yours, and it seems that since you were hurt by a few black women, or scrutinized, you have demonized us all…and I don’t know any black women in my circle or my family that refer to one another as bitches, so your thoughts on that are complete bull$h*t. It all depends on how you are brought up and what values you wre given growing up. I also feel that you saying “sistas” need to re-evaluate themselves is completely bogus…maybe YOU need to re-evaluate yourself and look for a different type of “sista”. I don’t feel like anyone owes me anything and I know plenty of black women as well that have the same frame of mind…We have our own, take care of our children, which by the way if we are single mothers, we are taking on the duties of both parental roles, and take care of our family. I think that you have a personal axe to grind because you were cheated on by the one you thought was for you and the first one you mentioned just had a bad outlook on life and a bad attitude. That does not justify that we are all needing to re-evalute ourselves and change…that was your particular situation…Hell, I could write a novel on how every man that I gave my heart to treated me dirty and f*cked me head up six ways from Sunday…but that does not make every Black man a bad one. I have dated men from other races and have encountered the same bull$h*t and drama as with those relationships just like those with a Black man. My ex-husband did me the worst and he was Black, yet I still have not given up on my race…My best friend is white, and she only dates black men, and you know what kind of crap they feed into her brain??? They tell her the typical sh*t on how Black women have attitudes and are Ghetto….and that they will treat her sooooo much better…I sit back and laugh when she comes back a week later and it mad as hell because they completely played her, took her money and ordered her butt around…after a few years of getting played out by “our” men, she developed an attitude worse than any Black woman I have EVER met…and now she can’t get a man to stick around…I have had to put her in check for talking down to Black men in public and putting them down constantly…I have had to put her in check about getting mad at men she is dating and calling them the “N” word as soon as she gets pissed off…I mean the minute she got mad, she showed her true colors and was down talking and disrespecting the men she supposedly loves the most…just be careful because everything that glitters ain’t gold honey. Be happy with your Latina for now, but just because she is not a Black woman, doesn’t mean she is issue free…you might be in store for an even bumpier ride. I hope it doesn’t happen to you, but women are women and it doesn’t matter about race..we all have our issues and personality traits good and bad. No one is perfect, and you certainly aren’t, neither am I for that matter…just take a look at yourself and your previous relationships and ask yourself if you contributed at all in the demise of your relationship…there are always three sides to a story..yours, hers, and the truth
@ EVERYBODY
MAN THIS SHOW IS FOR SHOCK VALUE ONLY AND ITS NO SUCH THING AS ANOTHER RACE IF YOU TALKING BOUT ANOTHER RACE THEN WE TALKING BOUT ALIENS OR SOMETHING STUPID LIKE THAT ITS ONLY ONE RACE THE HUMAN RACE AND NO ONE’S SKIN COLOR SHOULD DICTATE WHO IS BETTER THAN THE OTHER IN THE END WE ALL GO THRU 4 STAGES IN LIFE WE ARE BORN WE MATURE WE GROW OLD AND WE DIE. I FEEL THIS WHOLE SUPPOSEDLY RACE CRAP ISSUE IS Y SO MUCH DRAMA IS IN THE WORLD IN THE 1ST PLACE STOP PICKING APART DIFFERENCES AND RECOGNIZE SIMILARITIES AND YOUR LIFE WILL BE A WHOLE LOT BETTER PEACE.
why is someone always hating on what people are attracted to,,,its not your business, it just shows that relationships are not a race thing for him,,its always jealousy and race insecure people who would even bring something like this up…
Yet again another bullshitblog to appease your belief of wha should be the status quo. There is no rule book that says ‘stick to your kind’ that is racist in itself. He has a preference for all women and as far as I am concerned it was represented in the show. . As a black female I coud not agree with him more…ridiculous how u black american females feel an entitlementad continue to walk aroud with this chip. Instead f tryng to fix the chp y’all make it worse by being all caught up with your inferiority complex…..
Better yet read his own blog to shut your damn self up
http://globalgrind.com/channel/gossip/content/1689041/my-johnson-doesnt-live-in-a-box-by-chad-ochocinco/
Matt: I’ll check that out.
Bayarea:
1. Read again, please… I said most, majority. I’ll mean “ALL” when I say “ALL”. Don’t make it bigger than what it is. And some sistas do that too. If it applies to then meh.
2. I’m scanning through the giant un-sectioned paragraphical (pretty sure I just made that word up) rant, that you left. I don’t need to re evaluate again. Because I did that. Others and I talked to strong level headed sistas about the same shit I posted and they agreed.
3. Honestly most black womens mentality is jacked up. You can look for whatever excuse to blame it on or say their like that too to avoid the issue and avoid taking responsibility but it what it is. And it still remains unchanged or it gets worse.
What bugs me the most is that everytime someone brings up the issue or problem they get bitched at, berate etc ala bill cosby. But no one wants to fix the issue.
4. You read it wrong again, I said it is what it is, and my ex did not cheat on me. I won’t get back with her for a few reasons. I know alot more sistahs with her mentality. Stop making it more than it is. And if I meet a sistah that acts right, then I’ll get with her.
I’m aware of the issues of females but it’s not all the same. I could flip what you said but there’s no point. I know some really good women. Black and other races. Anyways the negativity and drama is higher with most black women. I could actually categorize it racially lol. Which is just really F’d up, but doesn’t matter, since we’re not talking about other races. The worst I’ve gotten it from was from black women, the ones that criticize me the most over the stupidest shit are sisters. I’ve literally heard relationship stories and said “it was a sistah huh” they said “how’d you know lol”. I’ve been around and talked to alot of black women, I know how it is. Hell I even catch it from the black side of my family. Nada from the hispanic/etc.
But alas no one wants to face/fix/take responsibility for anything just provide excuses or berate some more till nothing more is said.
Truth is no brotha is selling out, no other nationality is taking black men. Most sistahs are literally driving them away. If it’s not you then it maybe someone else. And while your whining about it, actions speak louder than words.
I am Half Black and Puerto Rican and i love Dark skin Girls. they are so damn sexy to me and i am really light. i just can’t get with lighter skin girls. Dark black women are my preference. it all balls down to what you prefer that’s it .
Chad is suffering from an INFERIORITY COMPLEX. It is very obvious.
He is also ignorant. This male has four out of wedlock children by 2 or 3 black women. Why would any sane, educated, beautiful & financially independent woman of any color want a man like Chad?
Chad’s real and legal surname is JOHNSON. No good comes from a person who hates who they are…he will get a woman that only see GREEN. She will then use him & get his money.
Chad will get his just reward in the end.
Hmmm.. sounds like a few of you are in denial of the situation. This man does have the right to date and f**k whoever he wants, but these little side notes of black women don’t appreciate things, and “u black americans” (by the way didn’t you say you were a black female yourself? smh) reinforce the stereotypes surrounding this whole damn article. Quite saddening really. I personally cannot comment on the preference aspect, BUT I can tell right now that the reasons some black men don’t date black women is pure foolishness. Theres no problem with simply saying you are attracted to other races, or lighter shades. Simple.
This article is lame. Why are you concerned with the shade of darkness in which Chad prefers in women? I think (most ignorant) black folks need to get off that shade of black sh*t. If you’re black you’re black regardless of how light or dark black you are. You don’t hear white people hating on other white people by saying they are pinker than one another.
This is so stupid why is this such a big deal??? People are attracted to certain kinds of women why does he have to be attracted to women that are his race??? I think that this shouldn’t have even come up the people that brought this up were the ones being racist and making this about skin color.
I think it’s a shame he has to go searching for the perfect woman..who does he think he is??? I mean, honestly? He should be more concerned about the 4 children he has instead of “trying to find true love”. While I am a Bengals fan and am glad he plays for them, I find his personal life boring and unappealing and think it’s a pitiful cry for attention!
I think people are taking this the wrong way. They’re not saying he shouldnt date outside his race, they’re saying he feels its ok for a black women to be his sperm carrier and produce his seed but she’s not good enough to be his girlfriend or his wife. Men have preference but chad goes so far out of his way to make it known that it kinda looks like a self hate type of thing. He changed his lame name to identify with “latin” he even told a girl on his show he was mexican?? Aint nothing about that man mexican. If he wasnt a football player those white women or those latino women wouldnt look twice at him. Because you cant take a black man home to mom and dad unless he has some type of power.
A lot of these comments really piss me off because people act like it’s okay for SOMEONE TO HAVE SUCH A HIGH PREFERENCE WHEN IT COMES TO RACE! The reason why some black women may think it’s offensive for a black man to be only dating white or other raced women is because for years, many comedians and people in the entertainment and sport industries have said that white and other raced women are better and act better than black women! That’s a slap in the face.
Stop being so damn apathetic and ignorant. WTF you mean it’s his business? He f**king put his sexual and dating business out there in the open for the public to judge so anybody can say anything they want about these women, him, and the show. Plus, who are you to only date a certain COLOR of people? Hello… aren’t we all human beings? There’s ghetto, intelligent, classless, classy, nice, and mean people in all shades of colors so how the hell could you think that a certain race of people is better than any other, especially your own?
Point blank, it’s very odd that the majority of black men now-a-days only date white, mixed, or different raced women and it really has a lot to do with self hate and arrogance. The majority of black men are either in jail, ghetto/jobless, or dating a white woman. I find it funny how so many different raced women want a black man when he’s usually ghetto as hell and arrogant! I find it funny how the majority of white men aren’t seen dating black women. This country isn’t as diverse as it should be.
bayareacutiepie
i am hearing ya sis
its really strange…..that people who have been subjected to all kinds of racial and agressive behaviour feel it is ok to be so insensitive to their own.
i am light skinned and come from a family with a mixed background…. all the women in my family come in different shades, and they are all black, my ma is black and so was my grand may…i have nothing but love for sistas and yes you will have bad experiences but you can not but every one in that category….. i am sure if we ask your exs they would say you were a jerk.
personally each to their own, i have dated other races, because at that time that person appealed to me the most…. the sistas i have dated have all given me great memories. all in all black women are the greatest and as in all races we have good and bad its up to you to choose the best for you simple.
but i have to agree with all the sistas on here we guys dont make it easy and our behaviour some times scares the hell out of me….we are all gonna be parents 1 day…would you want some one to treat your child in that manner
Why does anyone give a flying f*%! Who Ocho Cinco likes or dislikes? Does every Black woman want him or something? He can like whomever he wants he’s not someone I wouuld choose.