The beautiful Pilar Sanders is best known for being wife to former NFL player, Deion Sanders, a reality TV star and most recently a guest on the hit VH1 show, Single Ladies. We caught up with her to talk about how she juggles her family and career, her thoughts on groupies, how she keeps her marriage spicy and much more:
Kiki: What was it about Single Ladies that attracted you to be part of it?
Pilar: “Well, the fact that it was a scripted series definitely got my attention! Then of course the people that were a part of the project, like Queen Latifah and the entire cast drew me in.”
What was it like going from reality TV to a scripted show?
“I modeled and acted before I was married. I decided that after my babies were able to walk, talk, go to school and cook, I would come back to doing the work I love. Being a wife, mother and actress is a part of who I am, so the transition was seamless.”
Do you regret doing Football Wives? Would you do reality TV again?
“I like to say I have no regrets. However, what I had to deal with when it came to doing the show was something I could have done without. ‘The Football Wife’ experience didn’t change my view of reality TV though—I wouldn’t allow a few unfortunate encounters to ruin anything, so I wouldn’t be against doing another reality show.”
What have been some of the biggest challenges to overcome when juggling your acting career, children and marriage?
“The most prevalent challenge is balancing it all! Life. Making sure my home doesn’t skip a beat while I venture out to satisfy my own personal calling and desire. With so many hats to wear as a women ‘dealing’ is not an option! ‘Making it happen’ is what it is if I want to accomplish anything.”
With Deion having been a pro football player, have you had to deal with ‘groupies’?
“I really never had to. A groupie can only be your groupie if you allow it to happen. Deion has never placed himself nor me in the position where either of us would have to ‘deal’ with that. But as a side note, if I have ever had to question a woman’s motives, then she wouldn’t need to be around and he’d have to be man enough to make that happen. I don’t believe women should have to handle their husband’s groupies; he should know how to check that at first sight.”
How do you and Deion keep things spicy?
“My belief, and our practice, is that every relationship has its own seasons. It’s vital to know when the seasons of a relationship change and to adjust to it properly. There’s a time to cuddle and whisper sweet nothings and a time for the crew to man up and forge ahead (laughs). Knowing what your partner wants without asking, and of course delivering it, keeps it hot. People love to be loved and wanted. So expressing that in some form or fashion consistently never gets old. Spontaneity is a must and always fun. Keeping a sense of surprise as well as humor in the atmosphere makes you feel good inside and out.”
We know you’re a perfumista—have you considered launching a clothing line?
“Yes I am a perfumista, and I really enjoy all of the wonderful feedback from my first fragrance Shelomi—so thank you to everyone! I actually do have a t-shirt line coming out called ‘Rich Girls’. My girlfriends and I get together and have ‘girl time,’ which is always so needed. We share important things about whats happening in our lives, get advice, give advice and have a great time together catching up. We drink sparkling grape juice out of fancy glasses and treat ourselves to whatever we want and always called it ‘Rich Girls Night’. Quality time with the women you love, learning about new ideas and things and laughing until you cry and your cheeks and stomach hurt is priceless! That’s what Rich Girls is about, celebrating women coming together from all generations to open up and share a wealth of knowledge.”
What are three (fashion) pieces you splurged on this season?
“Shoes, shoes and shoes!”
Can you give our female readers a few style tips?
“My style tip (which will never go out of style), is to always wear fabrics and cuts that compliment your body and personality. You can never go wrong with this simple tip.”
Are there any women who have inspired you to be the woman you are today?
“The Lord has blessed me so with an extraordinary mother and sister team who are always on point and support me through everything! Support doesn’t necessarily mean ‘agree with’, but in spite of whether they condone any of my choices in life, they have always stood by me. Upholding, reminding and teaching me what it is to remain who I am throughout any adversity.”