Demi Lovato Talks Bullies, Booze, and Bulimia In British Cosmo On Campus
Demi Lovato may be one of the judges on the X-Factor, but the singer had marked an “X” on the possibility of starting a romantic relationship…at least for now. After battling bulimia, the 20-year-old singer confessed to U.K Cosmopolitan’s spin-off student magazine, Cosmo on Campus, that she is ditching dating.
“I’m in a place where I can finally trust and love and be a better person for the man I am in a relationship with, instead of being a clingy girlfriend or getting jealous,” Lovato said. “It is very unhealthy when girls devote all of their time to a guy and forget their friends and family. I did that. I was always looking for distractions because I was so afraid of being alone. More has come out of the past year than in my entire career so far, and I truly believe it was because I was taking care of myself and not focusing on guys.”
Demi may have spent the past year focusing on her career instead of the opposite sex, but she admits that she stepped into the bright spotlight next to Britney Spears, Simon Cowell and L.A. Reid on the X-Factor way too soon. “I don’t think I was ready when I started on The X Factor [in autumn 2012],” she revealed. “In an ideal situation, I would have maybe waited a year or more [after coming out of treatment]. I dived into work really quickly and maybe that wasn’t the best idea at the time, but the place I am in today is so much better than I could have ever imagined, so I’m really glad.”
She continued, “I was about 12 or 13 when I developed my eating disorder, and at that time nobody in the public eye talked about their body issues. I feel that if someone had admitted they had a problem, then I wouldn’t have gone down that route myself. That’s my goal in talking about my problems. I want to be the person for other girls that I needed to admire when I was looking for help and strength. It’s okay to love your body the way it is and it’s okay to reach out for help if you have drug and alcohol problems, or if you’re self-harming or being bullied.”
Demi may not be dating now, but when she finally does, there’s one thing every fella hoping to court her needs to know. “I’m a southern Texas girl,” she said. “I have a really strong personality—I speak my mind and I don’t hold back… I’m the type of woman who doesn’t put up with bullsh*t, so when I date I have to find someone who won’t either. I don’t think any woman should ever hold back what she’s really thinking.”